“Fucked off you bitch! What the hell is happening to you? I don’t understand you anymore! You don’t speak with me; I want sex but you seems exhausted and without interest anymore. What the hell, everything sucks right now and I don’t know what is wrong with you. I don’t know you anymore. You don’t do anything that will connect between you and me as husband and wife. You are contented doing something just for yourself. You don’t ask me anything about what you thought, unlike before. I am tired of this.”
Whoops never think that was me and husband, because we never had such horrible fight. (Giggles) Those were just some scene I saw from the movie. Maybe it is also happening to you right now? That was possible to happen even in those people from your neighborhood.
As far as I concerned, there is no other differences from the scene in the movies over the real life.
I woke up this morning, October 10, 2011. My husband was preparing himself to go to meeting far from the city. Before he left, he made me coffee as he usually done for me. While he was preparing the coffee, I looked at him and remembered the other day conversation.
(Conversation below; Red was me, and Blue is my husband)
Few days back, after watching the movie my attention was turned to my husband. I asked him,
“Honey, do you remember when the last time we fight about something else was?”
“I don’t remember honey because that was long time ago, I don’t even remember what it was all about.”
“But we didn’t have any serious fight about something honey, we just didn’t understand much each other that time, it wasn’t serious fight, or was it?”
“No it wasn’t serious honey, we always have misunderstanding before we got married but that was just for few minutes”.
“Oh yeah, that is right honey, we ended up smiling again before the day ends”. (Giggling)
“Yes we were honey.”
“Nowadays, we never fight, no more. Isn’t weird honey? I mean, it was long time ago but we never have any misunderstanding”.
“I was also thinking about that, but it’s good right?
That was a very serious conversation between me and my husband few days back. All we know was, we have this daily communication before we slept. We asked each other if we are happy, and want something. If am sad from time to time, he just always asked what I need to be happy, if I want something or should he do something to make me feel better. That’s how we worked on our daily life. We are keeping our communication alive and active all the time. I must say, that is the secret of our marriage.
What I meant from that was everything might happen same like scene from the movie, if we don’t concentrate and considered our partners opinion and happiness. Relationship can be worst and nevertheless, goes in a wrong path. That is totally harsh, but yet true.
Nowadays, everything should evolve. You as a person, and you as someone who needs to be responsible in this term relationship, perhaps you might find it really not useful, but the truth is, we must, and we should. However, relationship is not just a term that usually people talks about; it’s about you person to other person, sharing, loving, understanding, that connects to the word responsible and consideration.
You might consider it as petty word, is it? I am not professional in terms of relationship, but I considered myself knowledgeable enough to share.
Oh yeah, never say thank you to me, I am glad to share. (Just kidding)